I saw something very ironic today. There is a new project designed to create a bridge between ActivityPub and Bluesky, and some people freaked out. They were using F bombs, and telling him to delete his work and apologize, and were basically being extremely hateful.
The ironic thing about it is that their justification for being hateful was that there were haters on Bluesky. So, apparently it is okay to be an asshole to everyone if your enemies are assholes?
This goes back to my observation that many people who were abused become abusers themselves. Not all of them, but certainly some of them. They, unfortunately, grew up around abusive people, and they often unknowingly adopt the same abusive behaviors. And they usually don't see what they do as abuse, and they think it is okay to treat someone harshly when they are triggered by something traumatic.
And here is a shocker for you. The people who abused you probably thought the same way. They justified their abuse because "there was a greater good" or "they deserved it," or so they said.
Having gone through abuse myself, I understand the natural reaction. But if you don't want to be just like the person who abused you, you have to consciously choose not to be that way. And if you are whipping out the F bomb like it is a badge of honor, maybe you should look at yourself in the mirror.
Just because you were abused does not give you a license to abuse others.
And thanks for those who were speaking out against the haters.
CC: @Boris Mann